The O face is not as common as you think for women, especially when you have a new partner who is not in sync yet with your needs. Though you probably cum enough with clitoral stimulation, full-on vaginal orgasms are simply not as easily achieved. Still, if you are wondering why you cannot orgasm during sex, there are some ways to get to the bottom of the issue. When searching for ways to orgasm during penetration, Kinkcrate has the answers.
So you might be thinking you are some kind of freak who cannot have orgasms even when intensely turned on during sex. Do not worry. Nearly every woman has pondered this at least once in their life. In fact, around 75% of all sexually active females do not achieve orgasms during sexual intercourse.
What is society doing wrong? Well, pornography has taught us that hardcore banging gets girls moaning with pleasure and cumming consistently. But that is not the way a real lady reaches climax.
Overthinking is the root of all our problems, ladies. When you let go and let the waves of pleasure wash over you, carrying you out to sea, that is when you get the toe-curling orgasm. Stop telling yourself that you have to climax. Sex can be just as fulfilling without orgasming. When you abandon that rigid thought, you open yourself up to a more carnal experience. Get in touch with your sensual side.
Obviously, if you can get off with straight up penetration, then no worries. You know that works for you. However, if you know for certain that you absolutely need your clitoris stimulation or need your partner’s mouth on your nipples to reach maximum pleasure, you need to tell them that. Chances are, you are so focused on achieving orgasm you are not letting it happen.
Play around with toys from your Kinkcrate box. Read sexy books. Look at half-naked pictures of your favorite actor. Or look at yourself as you masturbate. Educate yourself about what goes on down there, including the places of your sex that really feel good when stroked, pressed, or massaged. Learn what tunes you up and sets you off.
And by music, I mean rhythm, tempo, and structure. Ladies usually do not climax if the pace of sex is frenzied, too rough, and occurs only at one angle. Start slow and gradually let the tempo increase as the two of you get more in sync. When you are listening to one another’s breathing and communicating through touch, vocal signals, and movements, the easier it is to continuously apply the kind of pressure you need to climax.
Sometimes, the reason women never come during a sex session with their partner is because they never took control. I do not mean strapping your man up with fuzzy handcuffs and teasing him (unless that really is your thing). Rather than letting him have full reign of the positions you get into, try getting on top. When women are on top, the depth, pace, and angle are yours to dictate. In the meantime, instruct your man on how to use his hands, mouth, or toys from your Kinkcrate. The simultaneous stimulation from his hands or a vibe on your breasts or clit, paired with an angle that strokes your G-spot, can coax forth a mindblowing orgasm.
Do not worry if you are not having orgasms during sex, because it is normal. Remember that for women to climax, it takes time. Attention must be paid to the clitoris, and erogenous zones have to be stimulated. Get your mind in the game with plenty of foreplay, use toys, and read erotic books. Soon, the waves of orgasms will be endless.
